But sometimes, we too lose control and we all have had flashes of temper. Outbursts, shouting matches and even banging doors.
Our kids have very little experience of anger so the initial temper tantrum, outburst, and violent physical reaction are all ways which seems perfectly natural and instinctive to them. But how do we help our kids to control their anger issues?
Younger kids are simply unable to verbalize their feelings or even talk about how they felt afterwards. But with older kids, there are many ways that we can raise the whole anger issue.
The secret to good parenting is to help the child to channel his or her anger and to be aware that violent reactions can only worsen the situation. Channelling anger into harmless physical activities such as games and sports usually works quite well.
But first we need to be aware of the situations where the child is liable to get angry and to steer clear of these situations, if at all possible. The school setting will not be under our control which is why it is so important to give the child strategies that he or she can put into practice when the need arises.
Here are some things that make children angry and want to lash out:-
- lack of friendship
- pain or discomfort
- how they feel
- possible reactions
- alternative ways of dealing with the issue
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