Many parents have actually admitted defeat when they are confronted with a screaming child or when kids’ anger is just out of control. We are in the screaming, yelling and explosive anger which seems impossible to deal with. About 50% of parents have admitted that they have lost control and started shouting back and have lost their cool.
- De-escalate the situation. That means not reacting at all although that can be really difficult.
- If you can, just take time out yourself and say that you cannot handle this right now. This is the truth. You want to be calmer and confront the problem later.
- You will not give in to the child’s demands. This establishes a dangerous precedent especially if the meltdown is about a request for an object or permission to do something. This could teach the child that this sort of reaction gets results!
- Children imitate behavior so a calm reaction each and every time will eventually start producing results.
- Talk later to the child or teen about what happened.
- Ask what happened and does he know the cause
- Suggest other ways of reacting when anger and frustration build up and are explosive. Give examples from your own life and situation.
- Mention voluntary time out- you yourself may have used this. It is perfectly acceptable if your child wants to distance himself from the scene of the crime, so to speak.