No bad kids, just mad kids
Finding out why he or she is angry
That immediately changes the whole scenario and the child realizes that somebody is there to lend a helping hand or even listen. Now that is progress!
Compare that to yelling back, slamming a door or two and the child ending up in a very long and stubborn sulk! When that happens, the anger is stored and nothing is resolved.
Another technique is to ask later on what on earth happened and if the child can let you in on what actually caused the eruption.
Empathizing and communicating
- aggression and violence are unacceptable in your family set up.
- there are lots of ways of reacting to anger
- tell the child how YOU deal with anger – give real examples
- tell the child about counting to ten and taking a deep breath
- recount how you can walk away from an angry scene
- talk about doing some physical activity to get rid of all that pent up anger, such as exercise or beating a carpet to get rid of dust or tearing up old newspapers.
- tell him how you felt at the various stages of the anger explosion.
- talk about self-control
Tell a story and talk about the reactions of the characters and the consequences of those actions. Talk about how anger can be controlled and how we can channel this strong emotion into much more socially acceptable ways. The link below is for a great story which teaches children about anger issues and other related problems.
Misbehaviors Driving You Crazy
From Parenting Expert Amy McCready
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